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| From Courtship to Courtroom : What Divorce Law is Doing to Marriage | 
 enlarge | Author: Jed H. Abraham
Publisher: Bloch Publishing Company
Category: Book
List Price: $14.95
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Avg. Customer Rating:  (15 reviews)
Sales Rank: 318166
Languages: English (Unknown), English (Original Language), English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 169
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6
Dimensions (in): 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.6
ISBN: 0819706922
Dewey Decimal Number: 346.730166
EAN: 9780819706928
ASIN: 0819706922
Publication Date: December 1, 1999
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Book Description
Attorney Jed H. Abraham explodes the myths about divorce in this candid, often caustic, book about the ways in which divorce laws are unfair to men. Drawing upon his extensive experience, Abraham sketches a compelling picture of what men can expect during court battles over alimony, child support, division of property, and charges of domestic violence. Forget your illusions about amicable separation and fair divorce laws, says Abraham, as he details the economic and emotional hardships that beset many men during, and long after, the divorce process. But "From Courtship to Courtroom" is also a helpful guide to men who want to avoid the drain of divorce. At first suggesting that they not marry at all, but also acknowledging that they will, Abraham warns men to prepare before marriage for the worst that might happen if the knot unravels. He makes concrete, feasible suggestions about selecting the right mate, pre-nuptial agreements, spousal bank accounts, and how to change the law. Any man considering marriage, or going through divorce, will want to read this book.
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 Due dilligence on the proposition of marriage. June 10, 2008
Gentlemen. Set aside any romatic notions you may have about the institution of marriage, and think about it in a purely pragmatic, rational manner. Think about it like a business contract, which is exactly what it is.
Would you ever consider entering into a contract that has a 50% chance of failure, wherein you risk your entire life's work, and will place you in bondage to a foul parasitic succubus for the remainder of your years?
Don't believe it? Think that your love is a love so powerful and pure that it transcends human comprehension? Think the world has never known a love as pure as the love you share with your Sweetums?
Think you know better then a Harvard trained divorce attorney with over 30 years of experience?
Well, good luck to ya buddy, but you still might want to read this book anyways before you propose. It's a cautionary warning, and shows the true pathetic condition of marriage today. You wouldn't buy a car without doing your research first, would you?
The truth of the matter is that marriage has absolutely no benefit to men. It's great for women, but does nothing for men. In fact, it's a major liability.
Mandatory reading.
I found this book way too late January 24, 2007
5 out of 5 found this review helpful
Having not come across this until after my divorce was final, it was like reading the book I could have written. Most of what Abraham describes happened to me. The approach of the legal system and what it hands out to men is exactly on - no doubt about it.
The picture Abraham paints is as dark as it gets. I know lots of divorcing couples who have cooperated and ended (relatively) amicably. I consider them lucky, but know now that you have to fight the 'system' to have that kind of outcome.
What I was really hoping for out of this book was lessons and guidelines on how to 'do it right' next time. Unfortunately it seems that there is little to be done to protect yourself financially going into marriage. Existing assets can be protected (with some effort), but otherwise things are bleak. It is truly sad that the divorce industry has brought us to this.
Considering Marriage as if it were a Business Contract January 29, 2006
8 out of 9 found this review helpful
For the sake of argument, look at marriage as if it were a business contract. Ask what obligations it imposes on the man; then ask what rights it gives him in return. Consider the alternative: a live-in girlfriend who bears his children. What additional rights does the married man have, that the wife cannot take away by filing for divorce? Answer: none. What additional obligations does the man have that the wife can enforce by filing for divorce? Plenty! So why would a man sign such an agreement? Let us give credit where it is due: Howard Stern made this argument years ago.
Abraham nails it and forewarns us all December 31, 2005
12 out of 12 found this review helpful
The beauty of this book is it shows, in graphic terms, what the pitfalls of marriage are nowadays. And then it goes on to show you how to maximize the probability (no guarantees, never are...) of having a succcessful marriage. The enemy here? It is not women (sorry, ladies no misogony here to gripe about) but the idiotic divorce laws that we have permitted "well-meaning" politicians (sorry, I want to puke when I write that too) and other "social leaders" (double puke) to shove down our throats in "the best interest of the children." (triple puke)
Best time to read this book is BEFORE marriage is on the horizon, second best is on the verge of marriage, third best is while married (don't let wifey see this book or you are hosed), fourth best time is after divorce. For me, ten years after my divorce, this was throroughly resonant and helped me understand the feelings and actions I took during my divorce and child custody war. I was fortunate (ex had crummy lawyer) but if her lawyer had been up to speed, I may well have been as badly ruined as Abraham described in his generic divorce scenario.
This is a must read for ALL American men, it is 10 stars, read it now, pass it on, then give copies to your buddies.
A Must Read for Every Male January 27, 2003
17 out of 18 found this review helpful
This isn't a 5-star book - it's a 6-star one. Abraham presents the reality of how the legal and judicial systems art stacked against men. Anyone saying otherwise is either ignoring the facts or... a woman.His book is short, to the point and does not contain footnotes. I do wish he had named names for both the good and the evil. For instance, although Abraham describes her study, he never mentions Dr. Lenore Weitzman, the Harvard professor whose highly flawed study and follow-on book, "The Divorce Revolution," created much of this mess. He did the same when reporting how Weitzman's study was flawed and how bureaucrats, politicians, judges and the press responded - something covered in depth by Dr. Sanford Braver's book, "Divorced Dads." There is a selected bibliography with many of these listed. Abraham occasionally slips into sarcasm, so if you're not careful, you may think he believes something when he's really mocking it. The one area where I completely disagree with Abraham when he speaks of how mothers discipline their children and fathers don't want to. Dr. Warren Farrell's book, "Father and Child Reunion," explains why single-mothers are afraid to discipline the children they have custody of (I refuse to say "their children" since these children are not theirs). Perhaps Abraham was being sarcastic and I missed it or maybe he believes that since mothers are responsible for 90% of all child abuse, this means they are disciplining the children. He pegs men's beliefs to a tee. "My case is different." "This woman is nicer." He let's men know what needs to be done (changing the laws) and how to start doing this. This book is mandatory reading for every male, especially High School and college men. John Smith
Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents' Rights
ancpr.org
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